When Is It Time to Let Go – Accepting Your Break Up
Your family and friends are probably telling you it is time to let go or that your boyfriend will not come back right? Chances are they are telling you to simply move and on forget about your boyfriend? If all you want to do is turn around and tell them to shut up then I don’t blame you, they can’t possibly imagine the pain you are feeling right now? Yes and no. The fact is that we have all gone through a painful break up and for many of us the pain will continue for weeks, months and sometimes years.
There is no escaping the pain and I won’t lie to you and tell you that one day it will be completely gone. The truth is that there will come a time when you “may” have to give up hope of getting your boyfriend back in your arms.
When is it time to simply let go and try and get on with your life? Every relationship is different, every break up is unique and the reasons for your ex leaving only you and him know. As difficult as it might feel right now you need to understand that while couples get back together all the time there are relationships that are beyond the point of repair.
I can not sit here and tell you to let go and move on, only you truly know the answer to this question but it will only come when you can be completely mature and level headed. Love is something that can make us do some crazy things, it can make us wait for weeks, months and even years for our former love to magically come back to us. While couples DO reunite all the time it is quite often after emotions have subsided and the issues and problems in the relationships can be discussed.
It is extremely difficult to put yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes. He has his reasons for leaving and no matter how much you wish you could change his mind, wishful thinking is the last thing you want to live with. Don’t pin all your hopes on talking your way back in by begging for forgiveness, promising that you will change or saying that you will do anything to win him back.
A funny thing often happens when you let go and try and move on with your life. In many cases a former lover can get back in contact with you even just to chat or discuss your relationship from out of the blue. The number one reason why ex’s keep their distance and ignore their partner after a break up is because emotions run wild and it is easy to simply keep his distance.
Don’t make it difficult for your guy to want to talk to you again. Don’t burn your bridges by becoming a crazy ex who will not accept the break up. Many women can go into psycho mode and begin tracking and tracking their former lovers activities, who he is spending time with and other down right scary things.
Only you will know when it is time to move on. The best advice I can give you is to try and step back and look at it with a level head and rational thoughts! This can be extremely difficult when all you want to do is get him back but you need to do it to not only let go of the pain but to become the person you once were.
Remember that you were once happy before you meet your guy and you do not know what tomorrow will bring. If you want to get back together with him then you need to show him that you respect his decision and more importantly are still the amazing woman he was once crazy for.
I can’t begin to tell you how many women destroy their chance to reunite by becoming a jaded and bitter ex. It is something that can be difficult to avoid and that is why is imperative for you to spend time with family and friends and do things that put a smile on your face. It wont be easy, you truly do need to force yourself to take action and force yourself to get out there and get on with life.
Letting go of him today does not mean that the both of you can not reunite in the future. It is the critical first step to hopefully turning thing around one day. It may not be today or tomorrow but the future and what it has in store for you is directly related to the seeds you plant today. I wish you nothing but good luck and happiness.