How a Breakup Can Simply Be a Harsh Warning Sign
Relationships can push us into doing crazy things at times, call it love or lust or both but the reality is that they can transform some people into crazy beasts!
Love can make us do some insane things at times and when it comes to arguing and fighting with our partner’s this rings so true!
There is a very simple explanation as to why couples can break up and then get back together. Many break ups are the result of emotions spiralling out of control and one person storming out vowing to never come back.
This is all too common and the main reason couples will then reunite once they calm down.
I won’t lie to you, this is not healthy and shows signs of some critical issues plaguing your relationship. If you are unable to resolve and repair these issues then chances are you will simply repeat the break up and get back together process over and over until it’s finally over for good.
Many times a break up can be a sign that your partner feels that you are simply not listening or not going to be able to change. You should never take blame for all the issues in your relationship but sometimes the ONLY way to get the point across is by leaving.
Many people have found this tactic to be extremely effective for proving to their partner that they mean business and that they aren’t fooling around anymore. Bickering and fighting is natural in a break up, hell, we all do it at some stage but when this angst and anger builds up it can quickly lead to the words, “it’s over”.
This is why it is very important to be honest with yourself and put yourself in your ex’s shoes. Ask yourself, would you want to be with yourself if you were your man? Chances are probably not if you are being honest and can see how emotions may have clouded your judgement.
If your man has walked out then it is time to take a few deep breathes and realise it could be his way of escaping a messy situation and needs time to cool off. Do not add fuel to the fire by harassing him and wanting to speak to him, he will call you when he is ready to talk, you can’t force him to pick up the phone and return your calls. This can make things worse and push him away further.
If your man has been saying that things have to change then you already have enough proof in front of you to see that he means business. If you want him back then ensure you listen to what he has to say and try to see it from his perceptive. Try and leave your ego at the door, now is not the time to let your pride get in the way, it can destroy any chance you may have to get him back.
In the end it is your relationship on the line and only you can turn things around. Let your emotions settle before trying to get in contact with your man and do not add fuel onto the fire!